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The Enchanted Forest - that's what I call my new home on Sand Mountain, Alabama. I tagged it with the name as soon as we drove the U-Haul onto the property in late June, partly to trick my psyche into loving this new, very different locale that I wasn't sure I really wanted. I knew if I told myself often enough that this place was a treasure, I would eventually believe it. It worked. I love my small piece of the planet, and have accepted (almost) everything about it. I wish I'd started this journal the day we arrived - it's too labor-intensive to retrace all the steps that have brought me to this point, so I will begin here and let each day decide what is worthy of documenting. It's self-indulgent, and will surely vacsillate between celebratory and borderline-depressing - but that's what life is. And I find comfort in that cycle. So here goes . . .

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Carolyn

I met her only months ago.  She was the first face we saw each time we went there . . . always offering a warm, friendly greeting in the midst of her busy day.  It was her smile that instantly put us at ease and helped stave off the fear and dread of going there so often.  I wonder if she knew what a difference she made.  I should have told her.

I liked her.  She was lovely and gentle, intelligent and interesting.  I hoped we could be friends outside the medical environment where we met.  I wonder if she knew . . . I should have told her.

Two Fridays ago we had a lively conversation, ending with her saying we'd handle the scheduling of Mom's appointment the following Monday.  But when I returned, her chair was empty . . ." back pain", they said.

A few days later, chair still empty, they said "Birmingham hospital".  The next time we saw her empty chair, they said "not doing well".

Yesterday we learned that her chair would be forever empty.  But just two weeks ago  we laughed and exchanged stories of childhood.  I am heartbroken.  I appreciated her.  I wonder if she knew.  I should have told her.

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