The saying, "to love and be loved is the greatest joy on earth" is so true. But we usually associate the quote with romantic love, and in doing so we limit the impact of these beautiful words.
This weekend I experienced the joy of loving and being loved to such great measure that my heart is overflowing. The love that I feel for the special people that shared these past 3 days of their lives with me is immeasurable. And the love I received from them leaves me humbled and uplifted. To have friends who are so real, so accepting, so supportive and so loyal is one of the greatest gifts this life has given me. I am so grateful for these women - these "YaYa Sisters" - and for their willingness to include me in their circle through changes in location, lifestyle, and situation.
They are, as a group and individually, wise, capable, strong, generous, honest, unassuming, fun and funny. Put simply, they are beautiful in every way. To have been blessed to call them my 'friends' is such a privilege, and one that I should work harder to deserve.
Thank you, friends, for who you are, what you are, and what you mean to me. I love you, and I am a better person because of you.
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Friday, August 13, 2010
Tranquility


Wednesday, August 11, 2010
The Way He Loves Me . . .
. . . and this . . . |
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Handsome Hubby Hard at Work |
From this . . . |
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To this! all by myself! (Except "installation, of course!) |
Temps over 100, even at 6 o'clock in the evening . . . after a long, trying day at his job . . . before he even stops to check e-mail or take a few minutes for himself . . . he's out digging in the dry, hard, rocky soil, doing whatever he can to make me smile . Within an hour or so he's 'planted' my 'baby' from the weekend . . . the lovely garden gate that marks the entrance to the Wish Garden (still in its infancy). The least I could do? String the extension cords from the garage so I could hold the box fan, slowly moving it left to right (oscillating, you know!) to try to keep him comfortable in the late-afternoon heat. He's always this giving . . . this selfless . . . this supportive. I wish I were as much.
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Giving birth to a "masterpiece"!
I've been in labor for two days. Serious labor. Giving birth is really hard, you know??!!
This labor didn't produce a 10-fingered, 10-toed pink squirmy little human, but it did definitely produce my own personal bundle of joy!
And so this latest project was born. Taking fallen limbs, vines pulled from tall trees by Handsome Hubby, and the opportunity to use the power tools, I began early yesterday morning creating. (I love using the chop saw, the Tiger saw, and the nail guns - all three of them!) It may look simple, but sorting through my huge stockpile of limbs and vines, seeking just the right one for each spot; measuring and cutting for perfectly imperfect fit, and taking time to let each one speak to where it will fit best . . . it's a labor of love!So here it is. A 15' long decorative fence, complete with working gate. And later this week it will be installed at the entrance to the Wish Garden. I am tired - I am proud - I am happy. And now I will rest from my labor. (oh, go ahead - click on the picture and really see how great it is!)
This labor didn't produce a 10-fingered, 10-toed pink squirmy little human, but it did definitely produce my own personal bundle of joy!
As the Wish Garden has taken shape, it began to beg for a defined entrance. A starting point. A point of entry worthy of the work that's gone into it. And what began as a single pathway through the side yard is quickly becoming a series of divergent paths, all ending in the same spot. (I love the symbolism in that - many paths leading to the same end.)

Friday, August 6, 2010
Object of my (intense) affection . . .
Do you own an object that evokes strong emotion each time you see it? I do . . . this beauty stands faithfully near our front walkway, willingly positioned to greet whomever travels that path (usually me!). She has been with me for years, and has served as the official welcoming-committee-of-one at 5 of my previous homes, and now graces our entry in The Enchanted Forest.
My emotional reaction to her is intense, and has not waned through the years. She, for me, is a reminder of two very precious presences in my life . . . She was a gift from my brother. A spontaneous, expensive, and unexpected gift from someone so dear to me - I smile and think of him every time I see her. I am reminded of the moment when, after I'd squealed with delight at finding her in a most unlikely place - a beachfront souvenir shop - my sweet brother spontaneously hoisted her up (she's very heavy) and placed her on the check-out counter. I was amazed and unbelievably moved at this gesture. We are not a family of big gift-giving, believing that love is best expressed in other, less tangible ways. But this gift was one that, after all these years, fills my heart with gratitude and joy at remembering that moment and the special person responsible for that joy.

The emotional reaction to this object is multiplied because she is a beautiful likeness of my beloved Buffy - my faithful and loving Cocker Spaniel who shared her 14-year earthly journey with me. She came into my life as a tiny puppy, at the begging of daughter, Meg, and remained my constant companion through divorce, re-marriage, moving multiple times, additional pets who came and went, and much more. She asked nothing of me but to love her, which I did intensely. And I was honored to hold her in my arms as she left this life and moved on to the next. There never was a more cheerful, loyal, faithful companion than sweet Buffy. I see her in this beautiful statue, and I smile at the memory of her as my heart still tugs at missing her.
Is it irrational to love a lump of concrete? Then, so be it.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The end . . . the beginning
His/her valiant struggle came to an end late this afternoon. I was not good enough to do what the wildlife refuge expert told me - to euthanize. I was not brave, but shamedly asked this baby to be braver than I and bear the struggle. All I had the courage to do was try to make him/her comfortable by human standards, and to choose a serene and meaningful spot in the Wish Garden for his/her return to the earth that gives new life. Someday I'll see him/her fly again, on the wings of another, perhaps. Until then, I wish this tiny one a sweet journey. And I'll pray for more courage, should I walk this path again.
Always Ask the Turtle . . .
Yesterday afternoon, getting out of the car, I spotted a whirlwind of activity in the dust/pinestraw beneath a large tree. At first I thought it was a bird taking a dust bath - it's been so hot and dry here . . . but as I approached, I realized it was a beautiful Blue Jay fledgling, flapping its wings furiously! I smiled, because as I got nearer, Mama Jay swooped down and nearly took my head off, letting me know that I should leave things alone and let her attend to her toddler learning to fly.
Two hours later, baby bird still in the same spot - didn't look good. This time, risking the wrath of Mama Jay, I moved close enough to see that the baby's legs seemed injured and/or unusable. Instead of hopping on the them, as fledglings do just before they take flight, he/she was frantically trying to escape by dragging him/herself on the ground with those baby wings, while the legs dragged painfully behind. But again, Mama Jay let me know I was not welcome, so I backed away.
Repeat several more times over the next 24 hours. My heart breaking at this poor baby bird, suseptible to neighbor cats and this blistering heat. But Mama (and Daddy) Jay seem to find my concern unacceptable. So, still, I just watch and wait.
But a phone call to the Alabama Wildlife Refuge Center was the least I could do, and as I patiently wait for their return call, I am reminded of a story told by Gloria Steinem about butting in where we don't belong. The story goes, "Gloria Steinem, the writer and leader in the feminist movement, once learned an important political lesson as a student on a geology field trip.
Two hours later, baby bird still in the same spot - didn't look good. This time, risking the wrath of Mama Jay, I moved close enough to see that the baby's legs seemed injured and/or unusable. Instead of hopping on the them, as fledglings do just before they take flight, he/she was frantically trying to escape by dragging him/herself on the ground with those baby wings, while the legs dragged painfully behind. But again, Mama Jay let me know I was not welcome, so I backed away.
Repeat several more times over the next 24 hours. My heart breaking at this poor baby bird, suseptible to neighbor cats and this blistering heat. But Mama (and Daddy) Jay seem to find my concern unacceptable. So, still, I just watch and wait.

"I took geology because I thought it was the least scientific of the sciences," she told an audience at Smith College.
"On a field trip, while everyone else was off looking at the meandering Connecticut River, I was paying no attention whatsoever. Instead, I had a found a giant, GIANT turtle that had climbed out of the river, crawled up a dirt road, and was in the mud on the embankment of another road, seemingly about to crawl up on it and get squashed by a car.
"So, being a good codependent with the world, I tugged and pushed and pulled until I managed to carry this huge, heavy, angry snapping turtle off the embankment and down the road.
"I was just putting it back into the river when my geology professor arrived and said, 'You know, that turtle probably spent a month crawling up that dirt road to lay its eggs in the mud by the side of the road, and you just put it back in the river.'
"Well, I felt terrible. But in later years, I realized that this was the most important political lesson I learned, one that cautioned me about the authoritarian impulse of both left and right.
"Always ask the turtle."
Gloria Steinem
It is my sincere hope that this is one of those situations that doesn't really need my intervention at all . . . but that the miracles of nature will give this one a happy ending. This beautiful baby deserves a happy ending.
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